Archive for April, 2006

25 Sexual Secrets and Confessions

Posted in minx with tags on April 30, 2006 by evilminx

Lifted directly from Artful Dodger. He’s so damn creative — imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Promise. Plus, I’m not in a fantasy-writing place today. Also, Madame X and Always Aroused Girl did this and I found it so interesting every single time that I fancied having a go myself.

1. I lost my virginity at the tender age of… twenty-one.

2. This was a decision I consciously made — I could have lost it before many times at ages 18, 19 and 20 (still no spring chicken compared to some, I know).

3. I was always a very passionate and sexy person, but for years I was misunderstood and people saw my passion as a negative thing.

4. Therefore it is only recently that I have begun to learn about myself, my sexuality, what I like to do and have done to me (Ooo! *Excited shiver*).

5. But still, if you believe the old adage that women come of age or peak sexually in their mid-thirties — which I do, because for me it was true — then add my name to their honour roll. Or blog roll. Fuck it — that’s me!!!

6. The reason I lost my virginity so late in life (ha!) is because I decided I wanted to be “in love” with the person with whom I first made love. But based on what i know now, it wasn’t real love… although it was close.

7. As it was, while the person made every effort to make it romantic and sexy, it was a shove, a thrust, a momentary sharp pain… and me left thinking: “That?? That was it?? That was what I saved myself for? Oy vey. [short pause] Can’t wait to tell BFIWW** about this.”

8. I have a very varied range of sexual likes, dislikes, proclivities and fantasies. But hell, if you hadn’t worked that out for yourselves already… sheesh!

9. I don’t hate porn, but I’m not always wild about it. Some of it’s just too *out there*.

10. I don’t like and will not willingly participate in any sexual activity involving: children, animals, humiliation, degradation, or serious “Ow, that fucking hurts, you bastard!” pain.

12. CH and I were once vaguely sexually adventurous; we did try tying each other up so that one was forced to be passive while the other had their wicked way with them… but to be honest, even his wicked way was kinda vanilla. And boring. And didn’t involve cunnilingus. I enjoyed it at the time, though.

13. I once had the blind date from hell. Seriously. Remind me to post about it. It was terrible, really terrible. But I slept with him anyway — I have issues with validation.

14. That special surge that you feel when the chemistry is just right with someone, is almost the best physical feeling I’ve ever felt. You know the one. When you’re still at the introductory stage of the evening, still drinking or eating and chatting, and your hands accidentally-on-purpose touch… and you feel that wonderful bolt of electricity course through both of you, and your eyes meet, and you both know what’s going to happen, and how you want it to happen so badly… mmmm. *Happy shiver*

15. I love ass play during a sexual encounter. Love it.

18. I flirt online with a lot of my regular readers — the ones I consider good friends. I think they’re all gorgeous, stunning, witty men, and if they weren’t attached and made a pass at me, I’d probably succumb. Quite eagerly, actually. As long as we remained friends in the morning.

19. I will never make a pass at someone who is (openly and happily) taken — although I have been known to accept one. Heh. [Corporal — the ball is in your court (so to speak) :-). I jest, I jest. Sheesh.]

20. I honestly and truthfully do not judge others for their sexual practices. I don’t always understand them (extreme BDSM being a case in point), but I never ever judge.

21. I’ve had online cyber sex. Many times. It comes close to the real thing, but will never beat it.

22. I have never felt so sexually alive and energized as I do now. This is a direct result of my love for the Muse — yes, I love him, I truly do — and the freedom and space he gives me to discover and identify my wants and needs. Not to mention that he tries to fulfill them with me.

23. I’ve never been physically attracted to another woman. Never. In the case of several female blogfriends, I wish I were capable of being unstraight. But no. 😦

24. My ultimate fantasy is being the female in a Male-Female-Male threesome. I love that idea. So many women seem to prefer being one of two women – not me!

25. The Muse is the best sexual partner I ever had, and I love him. I mean that, I’m not just saying it because he reads this blog. I love you, baby.

26. (It’s my lucky number, and I have discalculia, which is the mathematical equivalent of dyslexia.) This blog has played no small part in allowing me to open up and learn about myself sexually. Which, naturally, includes many of you. Thanks y’all.

** Best Friend In Whole World

***Updated: Proudly listed on Blogstormz

Validation in lieu of a comment

Posted in minx with tags on April 26, 2006 by evilminx

You know something, you guys are the fucking best.

It astounds me that so often in life, you can have a circumstance foisted upon you through no will or act or provocation of your own. This can range from the seemingly innocuous, to the horrific or frightening or deadly — or all of the above.

And you didn’t invite it. You certainly don’t welcome it. But there *it* is. On your doorstep, metaphorically speaking. Smacking you upside the head and saying “Hey! Minxy! Deal with this steaming pile of turd that I’ve left you!”

And there you are, covered in metaphorical turd. Ugh.

So you deal with the turd as best you can, tackling the accompanying feelings of guilt, stress insecurity and distress in as efficient and capable a manner as possible.

And yet you never know if you did it right. You’re never quite sure if you shouldn’t have handled it another way. Captain Paranoia resurfaces over your shoulder from where you last kicked the little fucker, pokes you in the ear and says “Wait a minute, Minx. Isn’t what you did against your principles?”

And then, if you’re me, you find that you are lucky and blessed enough to have those around you who will support you. Those who will validate you, and ease your mind.

This post is in lieu of an individual comment. And is written as a sincere and heartfelt thank you to you all — commenters and lurkers alike.

And enough introspection already. The revealing and salacious posts will recommence shortly. Watch this space. Don’t go anywhere.

Canker removed

Posted in minx with tags on April 23, 2006 by evilminx

I practiced censorship for the first time in my bloglife yesterday. Right here, in my little Minxdom. I did it, and I’m proud of having done so. I hope you’ll agree with my decision, but it doesn’t make a difference either way. I’m not going to change my mind, and i stand proudly and firmly behind my decision.

I don’t agree with censorship in principle. In fact, I’m not even sure you could class this as censorship, but whatever it is, I did it, and I am not ashamed.

Here’s the story:

I am not, nor have I ever been, one to judge others for their actions, proclivities, likes, dislikes, fetishes and so on. When reading a blog, I am of the considered opinion “if I don’t like it, for whatever reason, I leave and I do not return.”

Yesterday a new reader commented on this blog. A perfectly pleasant and sweet comment. Naturally, I published it, and then went to visit this person’s blog, as is my wont in such a situation. When I saw the blog I was appalled and disgusted at the content. It was a revolting and disgusting blog, concerned with a subject that would repulse and repel the vast majority of you.

It was a blog about raping women. For fun.

I don’t know whether this person is being truthful or accurate in his posts. The stories seemed unreal and born of twisted and immature fantasy. For all i know it could be complete nonsense.

I don’t give a flying fuck either way.

While I do not generally delete non-spam comments, I still reserve the right to remove anything that comes from a source which I find intolerable. Comments serve as a form of promotion, and I have no wish to promote such a person, nor such a blog. Not here, not in my sanctuary. Not ever.

I do believe in the right to freedom of expression, and as such I am not badgering Blogger to remove this reprehensible piece of shit from their service. Nor am i taking any action other than venting my own feelings in my own space. I am entitled here, much as he is there, to say what i like.

However, freedom of expression still must be tempered with responsibility. Venues for degrading, offensive and hurtful behavior should be marginalized at the very least, and excluded most generally. And i do not necessarily include adult sites or sites overtly sexual in nature in this description. That’s my personal understanding.

I therefore do not wish to generate traffic to this person’s blog, or generate undue publicity for this blogger, and as such will not repeat the blogger’s ID, or the blog address or blog title.

But I do have a message for the blogger in question. You know who you are, please read and digest the following:

If you are reading here now, please leave. I don’t want your custom, I don’t want your comments, and I don’t want you here. I am telling you politely but firmly.

Go away.

You are not welcome.

As for the rest of you, my lovely Minxes and Manxes, watch this space. New and more revealing post to be appearing shortly.

A supermarket car park

Posted in minx with tags on April 21, 2006 by evilminx

To the naked eye, it appeared to be a very normal parking lot, near a busy intersection.

Residing next to a petrol station and annexed , it sat, largely empty, except for a scattering of seemingly innocuous parked cars. In the middle of the afternoon, one would not expect much else from such a mundane setting.

However, if you looked closely, you might notice something slightly out of the ordinary. To the discerning eye, one of the cars was concealing something more than the usual scattering of empty drink cartons and candy wrappers.

A couple… a man and a woman… closely entwined each around the other. Their lips enmeshed; their tongues blended; their arms wound tight around each other.

They lay like teenagers in the back seat, necking furiously… he could not get enough of her, nor she of him.

He inhaled her scent, heady and intoxicating; affecting his senses like a well-breathed wine. Subtle and smooth… and indelibly her.

She melted into him, this wonderful man, who had so swept her off her feet… this amazing person who so completed her… this man with whom she had such a mental and physical connection.

And there they lay, ‘neath a warm blanket, shielding their behaviour from prying eyes; though each was all too aware of the other’s actions. Their skin tingled at the other’s touch.

Clothes shed, they lay naked, wishing the afternoon into eternity.

It was one of the most wonderful days of her life. Just in its calm beauty, and pure feeling of love between two soulmates; two friends; two true lovers.

And in some way, the afternoon never ended. It lives on, a golden and glowing memory.

*** Updated: Proudly listed on Blogstormz

My personal DNA

Posted in minx with tags on April 3, 2006 by evilminx

I am a Benevolent Creator. Apparently. Who’da thunk it?

You are a Creator

Your imagination, confidence, willingness to explore, and appreciation of beauty make you a CREATOR. You are independent, and you enjoy your self-sufficiency. Defying convention, you are very innovative, and you have a vivid imagination. The look of things is important to you, and you have a keen eye for aesthetic beauty in multiple arenas. You have a strong interest in what is new and exciting—and that includes forging ahead with new ideas, not simply discovering what is already out there. Your eagerness to seek new and varied experiences leads you into many different situations. You’re not set on one way of doing things, and you are creative when it comes to finding novel solutions to complex problems. You trust yourself to be innovative and resourceful. Your confidence allows you to take your general awareness and channel it into creativity.

You are Benevolent

You are a great person to interact with—understanding, giving, and trusting—in a word, BENEVOLENT. You don’t mind being in social situations, as you feel comfortable enough with people to be yourself. Your caring nature goes beyond a basic concern: you take the time to understand the nuances of people’s situations before passing any sort of judgment. You’re a good listener, and even better at offering advice. You’re concerned with others at both an individual and societal level—you sympathize with the plights of troubled groups, and you can care about people you’ve never met. Considering many different perspectives is something at which you excel, and you appreciate that quality in others. Other people’s feelings are important to you, and you’re good at mediating disputes. Because of your understanding and patience, you tend to bring out the best in people.