Comments on: Still a Bit Wobbly http://emergingontheotherside.wordpress.com/2008/06/10/still-a-bit-wobbly/ "And we will always carry on; something is lost, something is found... Some things change, some stay the same..." Thu, 05 Nov 2009 07:41:07 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Catalina http://emergingontheotherside.wordpress.com/2008/06/10/still-a-bit-wobbly/#comment-2304 Catalina Fri, 13 Jun 2008 03:55:44 +0000 http://emergingontheotherside.wordpress.com/?p=234#comment-2304 I wish I had some good advice for you. I have been in a similar situation - confronted by someone who threatened to send our entire email conversation to the school district (back when I was teaching). It was a very damning conversation. I made myself nearly sick worrying about it. Here was the mantra I repeated over and over. "if that happens, then i will deal with it - but i won't be held hostage by threats" .... i still was sick with anxiety for days until i realized that he just threw it out in anger. remember you can't change the past you can't control the future you only have now. xo, Catalina I wish I had some good advice for you.
I have been in a similar situation – confronted by someone who threatened to send our entire email conversation to the school district (back when I was teaching). It was a very damning conversation. I made myself nearly sick worrying about it. Here was the mantra I repeated over and over.
“if that happens, then i will deal with it – but i won’t be held hostage by threats” …. i still was sick with anxiety for days until i realized that he just threw it out in anger.

remember
you can’t change the past
you can’t control the future
you only have now.

xo,
Catalina

]]> By: havingmycake http://emergingontheotherside.wordpress.com/2008/06/10/still-a-bit-wobbly/#comment-2301 havingmycake Wed, 11 Jun 2008 16:28:31 +0000 http://emergingontheotherside.wordpress.com/?p=234#comment-2301 I haven't been in the situation and pray to God I never will be. I can only admire your courage and fortitude and implore you to listen to those with more experience and not the voice of Captain Paranoia who will sing the most uncomfortable song indefinitely. All any of us can do is learn from your mistake... but would any of us act any differently. In an attempt to obtain intimacy, we have to give our whole self in total honesty. I dont believe we would be the people we are if we did otherwise. And, by doing so, we take a huge chance with our own security and place our future in the hands of someone we trust. Perhaps we need to learn to read the signs more carefully and to choose more wisely in whom we place that most valuable commodity x I haven’t been in the situation and pray to God I never will be. I can only admire your courage and fortitude and implore you to listen to those with more experience and not the voice of Captain Paranoia who will sing the most uncomfortable song indefinitely. All any of us can do is learn from your mistake… but would any of us act any differently. In an attempt to obtain intimacy, we have to give our whole self in total honesty. I dont believe we would be the people we are if we did otherwise. And, by doing so, we take a huge chance with our own security and place our future in the hands of someone we trust. Perhaps we need to learn to read the signs more carefully and to choose more wisely in whom we place that most valuable commodity x

]]> By: sexagenarian07 http://emergingontheotherside.wordpress.com/2008/06/10/still-a-bit-wobbly/#comment-2300 sexagenarian07 Wed, 11 Jun 2008 16:28:18 +0000 http://emergingontheotherside.wordpress.com/?p=234#comment-2300 i don't have anything wise to add. just wanted to say i'm radiating good thoughts in yr direction. i've had moments of horrible anxiety -- dif in nature from yrs but alike in intensity -- over the past 20+ years, but fewer now, luckily. so good thoughts to you & good fortune. xx mimi i don’t have anything wise to add. just wanted to say i’m radiating good thoughts in yr direction. i’ve had moments of horrible anxiety — dif in nature from yrs but alike in intensity — over the past 20+ years, but fewer now, luckily. so good thoughts to you & good fortune.
xx mimi

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